A Moment to Reflect

As we are almost through to the end of the new year, 2017 I wanted a chance to reflect on all that has happened in my life ever since. It is an important year for me, and I wanted a moment to sit back and see all that I had achieved.

What did I end up realizing? I’ve made some great friends, met some cool people and learnt a lot. But what did I achieve? What significant contribution have I made?

By contribution I mean change. What kind of difference did I make in the world? Even if I forget the whole world, what difference have I made in the lives of people I met?

And while I was down on the dumps regarding it, I realized one thing. I wouldn’t know. Of course how can I? You have to ask the people I met.

We all have certain things we aim to achieve. It’s important to set goals. It keeps us focused. But what happens when we (like me for instance) realize, that it hasn’t happened yet? Or we think we haven’t done anything important?

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We fear what we don’t know. So when we don’t know our accomplishment or our success; doesn’t mean it was all for nothing. It’s human nature to compare, but what we must realize is, sometimes people may be comparing it to us. The need to succeed is so ingrained that we don’t realize it can sometimes lead to our downfall as well.

So, whenever you have the sudden anxiety of feeling like you are not making a difference; or if you feel like a failure, always remember this; someone somewhere is thankful to have you in their life. Whether it is your boss, assistant, cook, cleaner, family or a friend, you may be succeeding in the most important thing you are capable of doing.

Bringing joy in someone else’s life.

So if you are feeling down, or feel like a complete loser at times, always remember this. Your success may not always be measured by money or what position you hold in your office. Sometimes it may just be seen by the people you saved. And according to me, that is quite enough.

If you think my posts resonate with you please leave a comment and let me know. I do appreciate all the feedback and the support.

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For my last Lifestyle post click Never Give Up? – EVER


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Never Give Up? – EVER

I’m blank.

I have nothing to say. More like nothing to write.

What should I write? About how incredibly full and boring my life is? Or the fact that I have nothing positive to say?! (I’m not exaggerating…)

You know when you try to ride a bike for the first time but you keep falling? And it gets so difficult to motivate yourself to try for one more time? Well, that is what is happening to me.

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Early on at the start I was so positive, and optimistic about this blog and in general about my life. But I’ve learnt that it’s not all a rose petalled road (SHOCKER…not)

With work, and having drafts filled with posts I didn’t even realize that I needed to write whatever I was thinking so it wouldn’t end up written at the last moment with no thought. It has been happening since the past few weeks and let me tell you…I was this close to actually giving up and not posting today and putting it off for tomorrow.

BUT! If I do have to do it tomorrow, I might as well get it done right away, don’t I? (am I right or am I RIGHT?!)

We have such a luxury when we can do whatever we please that we become lazy. Doing things by yourself is incredibly rewarding, but also a lot of hard work. You need to be up for it. Not only that but you also need to be accountable for what your goal is and whether you are going for it or not.

Just as you get mad for falling off the bike and getting back up, you need to show the same strength and determination to get whatever it is that you want! It does not matter if you are 15, 25, 25 or even 55! As long as you keep your head high, and dust yourself and get back up; even though the thought of giving up comes in your mind you can look at yourself straight in the eye and say NO.

Giving up is not an option but a choice. Don’t choose the easy way and see what happens. Let me know if you had an overwhelming desire to give up but somehow managed to get through.

For my last post click Change

For my last Lifestyle post click Dear Brothers – Happy Raksha Bandhan


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6 Months to Go – 2017 Goals

YAAAAS! I hope you are all as excited as I am regarding this fact.

Why?

Because I have survived! Honestly the past few months I have been struggling so much. And despite being hopeful at the start of the year, I do consider this phase to be one of the darkest in my life… so far.

So what has changed? Am I a new person? To put it simply, NO.

THIS has changed. My blog. My writing. You guys!

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The very fact that you are all taking time to read and appreciate the post’s lifts me up. And THIS is why I am happy.

Since the start of the year was not so good, I do want to focus on the remaining time that I have left. That is why, I feel one resolution is more than enough to keep me on track. And that goal is ME. (there’s always time to work on your other goals…but you’re more important)

I am going to be a little selfish and to work on myself. My health, my happiness and overall doing what I love. To everyone who is reading this; no I am not being a narcissist. I have just realized that I need time for myself.

  1. For the sake of my mental health, I need to work on my writing and putting my best work ahead.
  2. For the sake of my physical health, I need to work on getting fit and healthy.
  3. I need to find self-love before expecting others to love me.

I realize that all these goals while in writing seem very deep and full of meaning; but in reality they are really hard to do. But as I recently told a good friend of mine, sometimes the well being of yourself and others is dependent on you taking care of yourself first.

While I may not have time, or the energy to finish up some more goals as I would like; I do hope some of you can take comfort in the fact that even if half a year is gone you still have half left!  There are plenty of days ahead of you to finish what you want; a year isn’t necessary. (Don’t be disheartened!) Just keep in mind that working towards something will eventually help you keep your eye on success and self development.

Everything is a struggle, but working towards it is better than sitting back and doing nothing.

As Miley Cryus sang; Life’s a climb, but the view is great.

If you too have struggled or are struggling with your goals then now is as good a time as any. Keep one thing in mind that matters the most to you and go after it! You can! You will! You must! What is that one thing that you need to focus on?

For my last post click Relapse

For my last Lifestyle post click Positivity and Love – A Light in the Darkness


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Positivity and Love – A Light in the Darkness

Does it bother anyone how ungrateful we get sometimes? Whilst I’m sat here contemplating on the future and the work I need to get done for the week; a bunch of people are sitting on the other side of the world, mourning the loss of their loved ones.

I am forever grateful and blessed; everyday I am awake and laughing with my family and friends. It keeps things in perspective that life is too short; and unfortunately it can end anytime and unexpectedly.

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While we all feel grief, and loss for what recently happened, we must continue to move forward. Walk on, show love; surround yourself with love and happiness because no one; NOT ANYONE will know how soon it can be taken away from you.

Today, it is a good day. So, here I am spreading the love.

Looking forward without the knowledge of what will happen is the mystery! It keeps us going forward. It is what makes us get up  in the morning and say “Good Day” even if we don’t know whether it will turn out to be good or bad.

All that I am trying to say is; appreciate what you have and go after what you want. Every instinct you have, even if it is a tiny nudge in your brain pushing you to do something. Do it!

Worst case – you make a mistake and learn from it. You have no one to blame but yourself.

Best case – you achieve something you did not even dream about! And that is all because of your hard work as well. It really is a 50/50 chance.

Sometimes a gamble pays off, sometimes you learn what your limit is. Either way, you still end up learning something and being wiser at the end of the day!

Do you agree with me? Can we all move forward with love and compassion without forgetting our past? Can we all look forward to a brighter future?

For my last post click The Gift – (Story)

For my last Lifestyle post click Why ‘Relaxed Reading’? – About this Blog


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Why ‘Relaxed Reading’? – About this Blog

I had mentioned in the last post that I was done fighting, listening and believing what everyone told me. So I grabbed my pen (Laptop) and my paper (Microsoft Word) and started my journey to happiness. A tad bit melodramatic BUT I needed to get my point across.

Do you remember the little corner in the library where you could snuggle up and read, and no one would bother you?…time, hungry, worry all would be forgotten? Well this was the reason for starting off this blog.

Hence, the name Relaxed Reading!

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I never actually did explain the name and purpose behind this blog because I thought the title suggested it. I want this place to be a safe haven. A Bridge to Terabithia. The Hogwarts Express. I want anyone who reads these posts to forget their reality and what they are facing, but still take away something they learnt; maybe through my experiences or share some of their own. (I firmly believe we all can learn something from everyone)

For example, recently I had a terrible day at work! Start to end. But instead of getting angry and beginning to cry in front of my colleagues (so I may get moist eyes when I’m angry…don’t judge!) my mind began thinking of a way I could write this; take something positive and maybe help someone else out as well! After all, we ALL have that one irritating boss at work don’t we?

*eureka moment for a new blog post*

Similarly, as they say”a picture is worth a thousand words”, I just plan on writing short stories on some captured moments in my other section. It’s funny to see how a story can be spun in so many different ways and still be engrossing isn’t it? It shows the different perspective’s and ways that people can let their imagination take them.

So! For this blog –

  1. I have decided to go on a more unusual route this time when I write. I will try and link up all the Lifestyle posts of the month so it seems more coherent in a way – preferably every Thursday. (I will try my absolute hardest…)
  2. My Story time posts will be published every Monday. (if I can manage) I do have ideas about some other stuff to write in the middle but let’s leave that as a surprise shall we?
  3. Also the little Friendly Reminders are just quotes I heard or read that I feel can inspire everyone; especially if you are feeling a little downhearted in the middle of the month.

I know this may seem either too little or too ambitious to some. But I thought it best to put it out there so I can have some accountability for not writing. It may help keep me on track and I am willing to try it. Plus, all the new lovely people having a look at this page will know exactly when to expect what. (a little predictive schedule but let’s see how it goes….)

If you have any thoughts and ideas about this Blog please do leave a comment. I would love to know what your thinking. (as time goes I might even expand this little space….but let’s wait and see!)

For my last post click The Secret Life – (Story)

For my last Lifestyle post click Ready. Set. GO! – Chase your Dreams


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